Category Archives: personal insights

12 Reasons Ending Racism is Good for White People

It’s a familiar bleeding-heart refrain sung in support of liberal initiatives, or to push back on conservatives: “Millions will suffer/are suffering! We can’t let this happen!” Lately we’re singing it a lot in response to hot topics like police shootings, poverty, the GOP’s proposed healthcare bill, and DeVos’s education budget. I was particularly struck by…

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Los Angeles 1992: A Personal Reflection on the Riots

Aging is strange. It’s strange to have memories that are decades old – older than the very lives of many people I know, work with and pass on the streets. I’m still getting used to the fact I know things from firsthand experience, not just books or elders. I’m still getting used to my memories…

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How I Learned To Love Black People: Confessions Of A Good White Person

I read the title of this piece and feel uneasy. I can already hear the voices of my confused friends, my protesting colleagues and the bigots.  I’m writing it anyway.  More honesty is what’s needed to heal and move forward, and honesty requires courage. On paper I look like a model “Good White Person.” I’ve…

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Why I Rock My Greys — Aging Without Apology

I am a 46-year-old woman. Like many middle aged women of my generation – the first to be raised with a nearly unlimited buffet of life options – I’m not ashamed of being 46.  I don’t lie about my age.  I don’t pretend I’m younger.  And I don’t try to hide it. One of the…

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What the Starbucks Cup Mini-Controversy is Really About

Once again, a minor provocation has set off the right wing: Starbucks’ choice of a plain red background for their holiday cups.  From an Arizona evangelist who says the un-Christmasy cups are a sign that Starbucks “hates Jesus” to Donald Trump calling for a boycott to dueling #MerryChristmasStarbucks and #ItsJustACup hashtags, it all seems like…

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We need a new understanding of loyalty to advance society

Last month, there was a flurry of media attention on Matt Damon’s disrespectful response to Effie Brown’s input during “Project Greenlight”.  One of my colleagues in diversity and inclusion, a biracial White and African American woman, weighed in on her personal facebook page, calling Damon to task as she usually does when a public figure…

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‘Not Judging’ Doesn’t Work: Mindful Discernment Does

As a professional in diversity, inclusiveness and leadership, I often hear clients talk about “not judging” as a positive goal. I especially notice white people going out of their way to “not judge” others and to be perceived as nonjudgmental. As is sometimes the case with good people starting out on their personal diversity journey,…

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We Will Not Be Deterred: Let’s Not Be Naïve

The summer of 2015 was truly historic — a snapshot of critical shifts and growing contrasts in American life. On one hand, we saw SCOTUS uphold the Affordable Care Act and legalize same sex marriage, Caitlyn Jenner bring the transgender conversation to more dinner tables, Bernie Sanders move corruption and class inequities squarely into the…

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Breaking Binaries: Why Allyship Is Essential

It was three days after the U.S. Supreme Court legalized same sex marriage. A transgender friend posted on Facebook: “WTF is with all y’all straight and cis folks making rainbow and trans flag profile pics? Don’t you already have everything else?” As a straight ally sporting my own celebratory profile photo (the Statue of Liberty…

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Anger: A Powerful Force for Empathy and Change

Among Good People dedicated to social justice, progressive causes and personal growth, there is often a high value placed on self-awareness and authentic expression.  Being fully present, having feelings and being transparent about one’s experience and perspective are encouraged – at least that’s the intent.  However, I often find that the value of authentic expression…

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